Several months ago, I came across Mamma Jenn’s post about Mamma and Me journals. In her post she states she got the idea of journaling back and forth with her daughter from Erica at Confessions of a Homeschooler. She, of course got the idea from another blogger at The Homeschool Post. I think I can stop there but the point is all had a great idea, and the moment I saw it, I knew it was something I wanted to do. I just needed to wait till the right time to begin.
Well, last week I realized I just couldn’t stand to wait any longer. BroBro has become quite efficient with his reading fluency and has been doing quite well with the required summaries during his lessons. So even though I knew details would be lacking right now, I figured this would be a perfect time to start. I figure the increased detail in his writings would be something neat to see years down the road.
I am so glad, I went ahead and started. We’ve been doing our own Mommy & Me journal for about a week now and it has been such a neat thing to see. Below are 7 reasons why I think this will be something worth keeping around for awhile.
1. A real-world reason to read
BroBro reads quite well and when asked (or required) to read, he is able to do so quite fluently. Reading is not, however, on his list of must-dos when he is given free time to do with as his wishes. While reading is required in his homeschool curriculum and additional reading is requested by me throughout the week, I have found that I don’t want to push the issue too much for fear that he will become resentful of reading and will fail to ever truly enjoy it. Yet, when a personal note is written specifically for him, there naturally is very little complaining and much more, “Did you write me a new note, Mom?”. Note also that I have chosen to deliberately not write “down to his level” either. I have intentionally used the words that have popped in my head when I was writing and have found that he has stepped up to the challenge. He has sounded out the words and used the context and figured out just about all of what I have written. What a great way to practice his reading skills.
2. A real-world reason to write
With BroBro’s reading increasing, I have recently considered starting him on some very simple writing composition tasks. I have kept putting it off though because I have been so reluctant to add additional tasks to our finally smooth homeschooling mornings. Our back and forth journaling gives BroBro the chance to start those written dialogues and compositions without the pressure of a lesson expectation. Right now, his sentences are short and his details are limited but I know that will quickly change as he becomes more comfortable with the process and see’s the writing that is being modeled in my notes to him.
3. Building a relationship
He is a boy and I am a girl and quite frankly there are some days that I just don’t get him. He is loud, rambunctious, silly, and completely full of potty talk. There so are so many days that I just shake my head, look at my husband, and question, “Is that normal?”. I am confident, though that it goes both ways. I am sure I am a complete puzzle to him sometimes too. Journaling will hopefully help us understand each other just a little bit more and continue to increase the relationship we already have.
4. Opportunity to voice things that might not be said otherwise
I know that this will be even more important as he gets older but why not start now. As a 5 year old, BroBro is unable to put all that goes on in his head into verbal words right now and of course has even more trouble putting those thoughts into written words. I hope, though, that by starting this written dialogue early that there will be a trust that will be built and will continue to grow and when the important time comes he will feel comfortable talking to me in person and even in note if so desired.
5. Opportunity to practice loving gestures (….you are welcome future wife)
As a little special surprise, after writing out a note the other day I put the notebook in his underwear drawer. This would be a place where I knew (well, at least I sure hoped) he would find it the next day. It was so funny to hear him the following morning, calling from upstairs, “Mom, why did you put the notebook in my unnnnderwearrrr drawer?” He wasn’t quite sure about it but he loved it. The next day, even though he read and wrote his note to me while sitting in the kitchen were I was working, I noticed that he didn’t hand me the notebook like he had in the past. He disappeared. Moments later he made a point of telling me that I needed to make sure I checked my “3rd drawer” before I went to bed that night. This is big. The importance of doing those small things for the other person is something that we have been trying to teach BroBro and not something he is often willing to pursue. So, while he was only imitating what it was that I had done for him, I realized that this was a great way for him to learn how to play out those sweet and loving gestures.
6. A chance to pass on wisdom
When I write in our Mommy and Me journal, I have BroBro’s complete attention. It is a time to puff his little boy ego and let him know all of the reasons why I love him, emphasizing his talents, his strengths, and his accomplishments. In addition, it’s an opportunity to tell him a little bit more about myself, a funny thing that happened to me when I was young myself or even how I handle certain situations. Today I jotted down a specific bible verse that was pertinent to a situation he was currently experiencing. Full attention gives opportunity for full learning.
7. Having Fun
Who knows where all of this will eventually lead but my goal is to keep it personal and keep it fun. I might use our Mommy and Me journal to start a treasure hunt or tell a joke. I might even use it throw out some interesting facts or even questions….ones that he just might have to find the answer to on his own just to prove that Mommy wasn’t able to throw a stump. The possibilities are endless.
Our Mommy and Me Journal has been lots of fun. I hope it is something that BroBro will continue to look forward to doing. I am sure that years down the road these notebooks will also serve as great memories of his reading, writing, and life journeys. How fun they will be to read then too.